Letter to my Past Self

{The mini challenge for this week in the Ready for Summer challenge is to write a letter to yourself, I’ve decided to write a letter to my past self and my future self. You’ll see my letter to my future self tomorrow}

Dear Becky,

There are a number of things that I wish you’d known from an early age, I’m writing this letter to you to let you know them and hopefully you can share the wisdom that you’ve learnt too.

You are beautiful. It doesn’t matter what that girl said about you, how she hurt you or why, she has her own stuff going on and believe me the lashing out at you has nothing to do with you. It’s a matter of science that it’s all about her. And those women around you, the ones that look so beautiful to you, the ones you love dearly, that are all on a diet? That’s about them too, it’s about a world which puts demands on women with lies and trickery. Those women who you think are beautiful and they think should be on a diet? You are right. They don’t need to be on a diet and nor do you. Boobs won’t make you happy nor will being a size 8.

Some people will try and knock down things that you are confident about. They don’t understand it or they just don’t like themselves as much as you do. They might be friends they might not be. Pity them, be kind to them, one day they will realise what it is that makes them unhappy and once again, it’s not about you at all.

Your body is going to change so much over the next 10 years. No matter what you do your shape will change not because you are too fat, or obese, but because you are becoming one of those beautiful women you love. Stop focusing on things about yourself that you can criticise, there are millions of people in the world who will do that for you in your lifetime, focus on the things you love about yourself. How loyal you are, how much you care for your friends and family, think about how you’ve kept some secrets and how you are kind to everyone. Don’t bitch and don’t run about with girls who do, what they say to you about other people is nothing compared to what they will say about you to other other.

Embrace what makes you happy and feel free to leave behind what doesn’t. Even if it means that you’ll be alone you’ll be happier, even if it’s letting go something that you think makes you special, if it doesn’t make you happy then it doesn’t belong in your life. Trust yourself. You can survive without being part of a clique. You try to please others and you’ll lose yourself.

Most of all. Life does get better. Do what you want to do and be who you are and you’ll attract people who love you because of who you are and what you do. 

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