Heart & Soul

I always think that when you write a blog you always have to put your heart and soul into it. For me, a lot of things have changed so so much over the past 2 years. I’ve changed. I feel like I’m writing an “It’s not you, it’s me” letter to my blog but I kinda am I guess, it’s also an “theres someone else letter”.

First the its-not-you-it’s-me. This blog has had a focus on weight loss, it from the start was going to document my changing body, and my body has changed massively, it started off here,

Now it’s more here

❤️ my new top but not the most awkward picture ever

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  Is it where I want it to be? No, but I’m a lot further forward than I was, an that’s post Christmas gain too. What I’ve been thinking, for around 6 months actually is, that this blog, while its come a long way, just isn’t helping any more, it isn’t about what I’m about anymore, it doesn’t suit who I am now.   Thing is I really have changed. I’ve gradually become myself again. I’ve stripped back the layers of protection that I’d built around me and I’m allowing my partner, my friends and my family to protect me and support me now and the barriers that used to be there don’t need to be anymore because I don’t need them anymore. Life is different for me now and so is my perspective. Life doesn’t feel like a war and nor does weight loss because it’s just not my main focus anymore. I’ve finally got to the genuine point in my life where losing weight is an indicator that I’m getting the rest of my lifestyle right and that’s more important.   I’ve not made resolutions this year. I’ve not felt the need to because nothings changed at all. I still want the same things I’ve always wanted and that kinda makes me sad so I’ve not wanted to write them down. What I am doing is making a plan, step by step, month by month. Being here allowed me to explore a lot of things, lock them up in boxes and leave them behind bit by bit. My baggage is here. What it also did is open me up to a world of people, it taught me not all people are close minded, that they aren’t all judgemental, even when they think they aren’t, that they aren’t all full of shit  that some people genuinely care. Some people I’ve met through blogging have become my very best friends. I can’t even begin to explain how much I think of what this blog and those people have done for me, but recently coming back here, writing here, being in this space has been like coming home to a bad relationship which I know is over. I’ve moved on and it doesn’t help to be here any more but I come here because I’ve not been ready to cut the ties yet. I’ve realised though, those ties have become more than this blog, they exist far outside of this blog. When I read Fit and Free Emilys reasons for leaving blogging it was like a light switched on in my head, we are so alike, being here kept me focussed on weight loss instead of on my life, a life which was giving me some pretty amazing things lately.

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I’ve so many exciting things ahead of me in 2015 and this is partly where the I’ve-found-someone-else part comes in. Oliver, Charlie and I have started a new project together, Gingerkicks.com (A mix of ginger the food and a nod to ollys hair, and kicks like trainers and the kick from chilli). It feels so much like me right now and although it’s in its infancy that means its so great, it feels like the me that I buried long ago, the positive me, the one that doesn’t need assurance, doesn’t need validation, I just want to live my life and share what makes me happy.

So this is goodbye to Weight Wars, because it made me happy, it pushed me through unhappiness to happiness, I learnt to believe in myself here, I learnt to let go of things here, and that’s been a lesson which has been one of the most important of my life.

If you want to stay in my touch, believe me I want you to and I want to be in touch with you if I’m not already, please follow me

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If you want to follow Gingerkicks, and I want you to so much, then we are all over the web,

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Thank you so much, for helping me move forward so much in my life. It’s been such a journey, an amazing journey which has brought me a very long way and to a place where I can honestly say I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.

Thank you.

Why I’m going to be doing the Whole Life Challenge again

During the last Whole Life Challenge I didn’t feel like I did all that great but on reflection I didn’t do badly at all, some technical errors with the site made it laborious at times and I began to lose hope when my medication affected my physical health making exercise all but impossible like I explained previously so it might seem a little bit crazy to be signing up again for the January challenge. If you fancy joining up I highly recommend it. They have sorted the technical problems now, it truly is a flexible challenge and you can read all about it here.

Here is why though and there’s a few reasons.

It doesn’t start on January 1st. 

Statistically January 1st is the absolute worst time to start anything, causation, correlation, who knows, but it it said it is and I can believe it. The challenge starts January 17th and lasts for 55 days. Not a quick fix.

I’m not QUITE as busy then as I was last time. 

I won’t lie, as the challenge goes on my schedule will only get busier but I should be embedded into it then. I’m hoping that my schedule from the end of February will be kinder to me and I will be able to maintain any progress I make in the first half of the challenge. Optimism people.

I know kinda what I’m doing this time. 

Last time was just a test run. Ahem.

I want to challenge myself again. 

Cause it’s fun to challenge yourself, Olly will be joining me in the challenge too. I’m hoping that I’ll be able to have medical clearance to exercise again but if not I’ll be able do some light duties and make sure I’m religious about them. What I can when I can. My motto for 2015.

 

 

 

Unravelling 2015

Every year I reflect on my year behind me and take part in Suzannah Conways wonderful Unravelling workbook, it’s a great way to structure your reflections and your plans for the year ahead.

Unravelling gets you to reflect with awareness and intention and that gives you the power to really centre yourself at what is probably a busy time and give yourself the space to really understand where you’ve been and where you want to go forward into 2015. It asks you to think about things you embraced, things you let go of, things you changed, things you discovered and things you were most grateful for in 2014 amongst other things. It gets you thinking about what could have held you back and what pushed you forwards, what you achieved, how your life has changed and it structures what you could be doing in 2015 using what you’ve learnt from your reflection.

 

It genuinely just takes a couple of hours and I’ve found it useful year on year, it’s made me think about things in a whole different light these last few years as my marriage became difficult and my life painful, and as those pains started to drift away and new challenges presented themselves. It’s helped me recognise my successes above my failures, my loves above my losses and my gratitude’s above my wants.

I recommend you look at it, try it, it may be a new idea but even if you just write a few words for each question you might just find it helpful. I’ll be using it to structure my reflection posts at the end of the year.

Merry Christmas All

It’s Christmas Eve, and all through our house, we are all exhausted from busy days and an excited boy, we have nibbles galore and a twinkling tree and we are snug in our house and thankful for how lucky we are.

I wanted to say thank you, for all your support this year, it’s been a magical year for me, there’s been times of heartbreak and times that have seemed impossibly hard but then there’s been times which have restored my faith in humanity and has put such fire and hope in my heart for the future.

A lot of my perspective has changed, I live my life in a very different way now, with a different perspective and a different lifestyle, I’m softer, and it’s changed my life, I trust more and I hurt less, I love more and hold grudges less, I forgive more and care about others opinions less. It’s working for me a lot. My year has been overwhelmingly positive when I look back at it, even though it’s felt so challenging at times, overwhelmingly it’s been full of love and how could I feel anything but good about that?

The One With The Massive Surprise & The Full Story

I interrupt our usual scheduled Monday post with the full story of my weekend for you. For those of you are my personal facebook page you’ll already know the news that a rather surprising thing happened to me at the weekend but we will get to that in a minute.

This weekend was my usual pre Christmas visit to the Eden Project in Cornwall, Charlie and I always visit Santa at Eden, it’s where his Base Camp is, he keeps his reindeer there while he prepares for Christmas and his elves sort out their side of things in the weeks before Christmas too. In addition to all this we decided to ice skate in the most beautiful rink. Friday night we decided to check out the new accommodation that the Eden Project has opened, made from recycled shipping containers they are small but perfectly formed 4 person accommodation.

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 First thing the next day we headed straight down to Eden and hit the Ice Rink with our friends daughters, our friends took up the position of photographers at the side of the rink with Ollie.

We had a grand old time, sadly Ollie couldn’t manage to skate as he had a bit of an upset stomach and couldn’t risk the ice, so he stood on the side and cheered us on with the camera and a cup of coffee.

We did a trail to collect magic pop corn to speed up the reindeer on their magic Christmas eve flight all through the med biome and then up to visit the Reindeer themselves!

Then headed for a lovely lunch, which Ollie didn’t partake in, but we did manage to snap a bit of a selfie which Emmas hand photobombed.

After Lunch it was Santa time! We love Santa at the Eden project, it’s genuinely magical, the Elves are real Elves, Santa is epic and it’s all in a beautiful yurt with a really great open fire and beautifully decorated surroundings, I’ve said many times before that Eden at Christmas is my favourite place on earth. It’s the best Santa I’ve ever been to, and we go every year now, its the first time Ollie has ever managed to visit.

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Then we get to the surprise. Which was a surprise to only me apparently as everyone else was in on the surprise, including the staff, my friends and my surprisingly-good-at-secrets-son Charlie. Only the other guests of Santa didn’t know until the moment that it happened. Ollie had sought Charles’ blessing the week before when I’d been out shopping with my friend, and he spoke with my parents too after speaking with Charlie. He roped in my best friend Emma to help with planning and ring picking although he was confident he knew what I wanted as I’m not a girl who doesn’t know what she likes!

If you want to see the whole thing my lovely friend managed to film it although you can’t hear what Ollies saying to me you can see the shock register on my face, mostly as the first thing that registered with me was that Santa spoke to Ollie and referred to him by name which completely threw me! While I was busy processing that surprise Ollie was down on one knee telling me that since he met me his life had changed and how we’d changed each other and made each other reach for great things and pushed each other to our dreams and achieve amazing things, how I’d trusted him with my most precious heart, not my own but Charlie’s.

Yup. One massive huge surprise! and a beautiful ring. He couldn’t have got it more perfect. Please excuse my wrinkly granny hands, it comes from using alcohol gel through flu season constantly and not moisturising enough! No flu here though!

After the shock had calmed down a little and I’d been able to pull myself together we got our things and exited the basecamp after the elves gave us a few chocolates and a few hugs! We went and demolished a few glasses of bubbly (only the one for me as I was driving later on) which our friends had hidden away in their bag! By the time we had finished with that we found our way to the rainforest dome where we had the most magical experience, a trail of Christmas memories  brought to us by a ship wrecked Christmas ark.

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The best part of which is we got to experience snow in the rainforest. Actual snow. In a rainforest. Who gets to do that?!?

Amazing no?

It was really magic. Charlie and his lovely bestie Alice had an amazing day together, he was over the moon that Ollie and I are now engaged and he’s so incredibly happy that he no longer has to keep a secret from me! After our trek in the rainforest we wandered back to see the Reindeer one last time and up to the gift shop and off for some dinner with our lovely friends. Eden looks beautiful lit up at night. The domes on the left are the rainforest, the right are the Mediterranean and the marquee at the front left is the ice rink (for reference).

We had dinner at the awesome Mimis in St Austell, an epic place to stop post Eden Project for burgers (except poor Ollie again!) and then headed home, exhausted but so very happy.

 Thank you to everyone on my facebook, twitter and instagram who have given us well wishes and congratulations, we are all beyond happy and Ollie is on the mend now, we hope to celebrate together over the Christmas period and with our families. A huge thank you to The Eden Project events team for helping Ollie to orchestrate such a special proposal which for so many reasons, which I can’t begin to explain here, have made my life.

Have a very Merry Christmas yourselves with your loved ones too. 

Christmas Workouts

Christmas and Hanukkah are times when we find ourselves colossally busy and hard to get out of the house to workout, especially if you are snowed in or the weather outside is simply frightful! I thought I’d just share a lovely selection of simple at home workouts that you can get done without any equipment other than your own body.

The Christmas Squeeze

At the moment not a day goes by without an email dropping into my inbox telling me how many calories the average person consumes during Christmas lunch (6000) or how long it takes to burn off a mince pie, and so on and so on and to be honest I’ve had quite enough of it. There are a number of reasons that I find it quite maddening.

Christmas isn’t about gifts. It isn’t actually about food. It certainly isn’t about weight loss or slogging yourself at the gym. It’s not about normal life either. I may do some little work outs at home, I’ll share them on Friday, but life will be different over the next few weeks.

It’s about reflection, family, rebirth, renewal. 

Religious or not its a time for those things. For coming together and for gatherings. If that involves a glass of wine, a mince pie, even a whole box of chocolates, it doesn’t matter if you are doing those three things just up there.

It’s not what you eat between Christmas and New Year, it’s what you eat between New Year and Christmas.

Take my little family for instance. Christmas is the first time off that I’ve had in 3 months, Olly hasn’t had time off since June barr a few days when he went away to a festival. This is family time like we’ve not had in a long time. I won’t be eating for the sake of it but I will be eating what takes my fancy. I will attend parties, I will attend family gatherings, I will socialise, I will eat cheese, I will eat carbs.

What will happen after Christmas is I will take stock of what I intend to achieve in 2015. I will take stock of what I want to achieve beyond 2015 and I will take stock of what is realistic in my life. I will begin again with normal life, with the balance, with the drive forward in all areas of my life not just focussed on my weight loss, which will always be an ongoing part of my life, but what I want to achieve with my career and what I want from my future, what I want as a future, where I want to live and what I want to do! Lots of change is coming in 2015 and I want to be ready for it all! So as I wrap up 2014 I want to be looking forward as I celebrate what’s been a spectacularly wonderful year of fun and excitement which I’ll reflect on later on next week.

So when you see that mince pie, and you start to think about calories, have a word with yourself. Are you hungry? Do you really want that mince pie? If you do then eat it. Are you going to work it off? You probably will next year. Realism is Christmas is ONCE every single year. Once. I refused to be shamed, guilted or generally bullied into feeling bad for having a scoop of cornish clotted cream on a warmed up (in the oven) mince pie once a bloody year even if I’m overweight. So screw you posters in the gym asking me how long it takes me to work off that mince pie, you know I don’t care if it takes me all year, because that mince pie is being eaten with my grandparents, they are 82 and they made boxing day lunch for the whole family so we could be together, it’s carbs and fat based, I don’t give two shits.